Old Friends, Good Herb, and Pilgrimages

rey and jason

Jason's the white kid. They're in the middle of a road after a rain.

Nothing like spending time with old friends.

I got a call tonight as I was leaving work from a number I didn’t recognize. It was my friend Jason! He taught in Paraguay before I got there, and we lived together for a few weeks before he moved back to the US, but I stayed in the apartment he turned into a home.

There’s something about an experience in a foreign country that seems to bond you with a person you share it with in a way you wouldn’t be bound if you just hung out in your own.

Whenever I think of Jason, I think of Paraguay. And often when I think of Paraguay, I think of Jason.

So when he called me tonight and said, “Jason, I’m about an hour and a half away from Richmond on my way to North Carolina, and I was hoping to visit,” I was thrilled. I quickly called Kathy and told her we had a visitor coming.

We sat outside in about 90 degree weather drinking tereré and talking about old times and what’s happened since we last chatted. It was nice for Kathy to talk about her home country and be able to converse in Spanish fluently with someone other than me. And tereré always tastes better when shared.

Jason and I have spent a total of about 3 hours together in the two and a half years since he left Paraguay, but I feel as close to him as if we have been friends our whole life.

That’s what Jesus does between friends. That’s what life-changing experiences do between people. I can’t think of Jason without thinking of Paraguay. It was probably the most influential trip of both of our lives, even though we did it at different times. We are who we are as individuals and possibly even as Christians largely due to our experiences in Pargauay.

I’m sure you’ve had visits like this as well in your own life. A friend drops by out of the blue and you converse like not a day has passed. I love how the Lord keeps us together this way. It’s a bond I wouldn’t trade for the world.

See you when you get back from Spain, Jason!

-j

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Father’s Day Things

Paraguay could win their division!  I think if Italy doesn’t win their next game, Paraguay will win the division.  I also think that if Paraguay at least ties their next game they are guaranteed to pass to the next level.  That sounds right…if Paraguay ties, they will have 5 points, and if Italy wins they will also have 5 points, and the others will have less, so they will go through.  If Italy doesn’t win, the other team will have 4 points and Paraguay will have 5 (if they at least tie) and will go through. So go Albirroja!

We had a fun barbecue today.  I tried to make it as authentically Paraguayan as I could. I even bought 2 lbs of mandioca (for $6!!!! Robbery!) to go with my beef, ribs, and sausage. The prices are quite similar, but the cuts of meat are tastier down south.  I mean, mine turned out really tasty, but I think the cuts are better (for taste) in Paraguay, for the price. Please to enjoy the slideshow.

-j

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Dale Albirroja!

I’m all soccery this week!

I think I’d seen maybe six soccer…er…football matches in my life before now. Some of you probably have heard that it’s World Cup season. My Canadian follower(s) might realize this more than my American ones, but outside of the US this thing is as big as the Olympics. And I realized last night that it’s going to take a while to finish!

All of the games, except *maybe* one Superclasico (a soccer match between Paraguayan clubs Cerro Porteño and Olimpia) have been the Paraguayan national team. I’ll admit frankly; if it comes to Paraguay vs US in the finals of the World Cup, I’ll be rooting for the albirroja (white and red) all the way! We have to dress up at work on Monday (clients coming), but under my shirt I’ll have my Paraguayan jersey, close to my heart…

Now I just need to learn how to play. I was mowing my grass when I realized my kids will need a dad who can play soccer!

-j

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Añe’eta Guaranime

Guaraní is the native indigenous language spoken in Paraguay and probably areas of Brazil, Argentina, and Boliva that share borders with my beloved South American home. I think nearly all Paraguayans are bilingual, but I also know there are many people who don’t speak Spanish there, just Guaraní.

Kathy’s family speaks it as well. She says they speak jopará, which is a hacked version of Guaraní with a large Spanish influence. Mine’s gonna be even more of a jopará than hers, but I feel I’ve left out a bit of info.

I wanted to learn Guaraní in Paraguay, but I never took the chance. Then when I got back to the US I wanted to find a course, but they don’t exist. Through links from other blogs, I found a *great* site-slash-podcast to learn guaraní. Paulita is the best.

I’ve been studying for a few days, and Kathy is already talking to me more. I can’t understand much, but I at least know whether or not she’s talking about me or herself or someone else, and sometimes what the verb is and whether or not it’s past, present, or future. She says it’s coming along well! I’ve realized it’s going to be a pain to speak but a bit easier to understand. I don’t quite get how to form a sentence, but I can pick one apart. This online dictionary helps me figure out my verbs and nouns.

It’ll be a long road, but maybe if I make progress with Guaraní, she’ll be encouraged working on her English.

-j

ps> extra credit if you can use the links I provided to figure out what my subject is!

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I Did Not Move, and I’m OK With It

A few of you “knew” I was “moving”. That was the plan. The (shameful?) truth was while I was thankful that Jason made it easy to find a place to live, I was still looking for a better place. It wasn’t necessarily that this place is bad, just that I specifically knew of a better place. My friends Ben and Vivi live in a place where there are like 8 apartments, and I was waiting for one to empty out. I even told Jason’s landlord that I planned on moving and I would let him know when. That was December.

The landlord at the other place told me there would be a space available in January when he was set to kick out someone who lived there. It was on the correct side of the building – the side with an awesome cross breeze and two balconies, one of which was going to be my own, attached to my room – and it was on the top floor, so it would be really quiet and really private. I was in love.

At the end of December, I talked with the landlord, and the guy who was being evicted showed up randomly also. I told both of them I had to be out of my place by January 4th, and the guy said he was going on vacation for Christmas and would come back on the 2nd to get his stuff out. On the 4th I went over to see what was up and start cleaning. I was told the kid never came back from vacations. Even his mom didn’t know where he was. I ended up having to rent my place for another month in the meanwhile, though I expected only to need a week or two. You can do that here. It’s a pretty chill rental market.

A couple weeks later I went to the landlord again to see what was up. He hadn’t yet heard from the guy, but he said after the 20th, when he could legally start removing the guy’s stuff, he would empty it out for me. I said fine, I wouldn’t bug him again until I heard from him. The 20th came and went with no word. I went to Argentina expecting to hear from him because Ben said he would talk to him. I forgot to take into consideration that my phone might not work in Argentina. I never got the call that was made.

I got back from Argentina on February 1st and decided to stay where I was. I was miffed that I never heard anything from the other guy and I couldn’t keep going month to month with my present landlord. On the 2nd I verbally agreed to stay in the apt, and on the 4th he came and I signed the contract. On the 3rd I got a call from the other landlord saying the apartment was empty and ready to view. I had to tell him I had already committed to stay where I was. All he could say was “Oh.”

Here’s the thing: I think God did this. Between the time I was waiting for the guy (who we actually had assumed had died on vacation), my heart started being more content where I was. It’s not a bad place. I had just started to make friends with my neighbors. One thing I was glad for with the other apartment was that I could tell the hordes of boys that come to sleep every Saturday night nearly without fail that they couldn’t come anymore. I felt like they take advantage of the proximity and my food and space without contributing to anything. It was while I was lamenting that when I felt the Spirit say to me “perhaps this is one of the things I want you to do while you’re here.”

So it’s gotta be God’s doing that my dream apartment that had every reason to be mine during January doesn’t become available until the day after I make a contract to stay where I am. I still need God to change my heart about the boys, but it’s coming. Maybe we need to establish some boundaries; maybe that’s one of the things God wants me to do – teach them how to be gracious guests or maybe just be a good example of a Godly man. Pray for us.

-j

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